Porn and the Church

porn and the ChurchI never thought I would see these two word in the same sentence, porn and the church. Pornography use is a problem that is not being addressed in the church today. Half of the men and a quarter of the women say that porn is a real problem and they can’t seem to stop viewing it.

As the world becomes more sexualized, the church follows behind as though it were a lamb led to the slaughter. This is how porn and the church have become intertwined.

My story about porn and the church

I am all too familiar with this problem myself. I grew up the youngest of three sons in a typical suburban community near Boston. I was raised in the Catholic Church and learned to fear the priests and the nuns.

They weren’t like us. They were holy and they didn’t get married or have children. They were foreign to me.

I began to believe the church was hypocritical as I became a teenager. I saw people seemingly holy in church and then swearing at each other in the parking lot.

I was self righteous and decided to leave the church.

At this same time I discovered pornography in the form of magazines. This began a life of seeking pleasure wherever I could find it and as often as I could. Instead of porn and the church, I was thinking porn or the church.

As life got more difficult and brought emotional pain I began medicating that pain with pornography. I saw women as objects to use for my pleasure.

I really didn’t see any of this until I looked back at what I was doing from a biblical perspective.

The Bible speaks of sex as being very good. Sex was created by God to be an act of giving and not a selfish act of pleasing myself.

Sex is to be used for me to give to my wife, to please her and to help me to provide for her in a way that shows my love for her.

Pornography makes this beautiful act into a selfish act of self pleasure.

There are many places you can go to find out all the statistics about porn use in the church.

Statistics about porn and the church

http://www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats/

Around 50% of the men in the church, including pastors say that pornography is real temptation.

Fifty six percent of divorces involve one party having an obsessive interest in porn websites.

The younger a person is the more likely they are to have a positive view of pornography.

From most of these sources you can see that porn and  the church is a real problem. We have normalized the use of pornography.

We have justified our use as a way of dealing with the lack of a marital relationship, or as a way to enhance our relationship.

The first step to overcoming your problem with pornography is to decide that you have had enough. You must do everything in your power to overcome it and the day to start is today. You can overcome porn and the church.

The solution to overcoming an obsession with pornography or sex outside of marriage is found in accountability and counseling.

Accountability can be found in specialized groups dealing with sexual addiction such as the For Men Only (FMO) groups such as the one I facilitate. They are designed to educate you, encourage your, but also to challenge you to be truly transparent. Porn and the church need to be publicized.

They can be the antidote to isolation which is so prevalent in men dealing with sexual sin.

Accountability can also be found in one or two close friends who you trust with every secret you may have.

Counseling should be from a trained biblical counselor. Porn and the church should be spoken of from the pulpit pointing to counseling as the first step.

The church must point them to a man who knows what the Bible has to say about overcoming life dominating sin.

A person who knows that “he who speaks before he listens, that is his folly, that is his shame” (Proverbs 18:13) is the basis of all good counsel.

It is impossible to provide counsel without first knowing what the real problem is.

You can have victory over habitual sexual sin. There is an answer to porn and the church

The power to overcome this overwhelming desire is found in Jesus Christ and trusting in the way He wants you to live.

If you want to begin counseling please go to our request counseling page by clicking here.

Other helpful resources

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